We spend a lot of our time and energy preaching that we should not lie.
We tell kids that telling a lie is bad, a sin and what not.
Do we really think it is?
I had this epiphany today that we all lie in some form or the other and do it all the time. Sometime without even realizing. My mentor sent me a thought this morning saying – Tell a Lie Once and all your truths become questionable.
Do they? I reckon NO.
I believe in the quote from the TV show How I Met Your Mother by my favorite character Barney Stinson – A lie is only a great story that someone ruined with the truth!
Lies help us survive and they help us cope. They help us live the way we want to. They are mostly intended to protect and not hurt.
If you think absolute truth is the only way to live – think about this;
When you get Christmas gifts for kids do you tell them they are from you and not Santa?
When a kid suffers a loss, do you educate them about death or tell them the person in question moved on to be a star or is visiting God or a similar story (which is essentially a lie)
When someone asks you to pray for them do you say yeah or nod and never pray?
Do you shatter an aspiring artists hopes by telling them they are horrible?
Don’t you tell a school kid that college will be awesome – do you know that for sure?
We do the opposite every day of our lives. Preaching about the truth is the most hypocritical thing we all do.
I don’t say we should preach about lies either. We should just be neutral and objective about it. Say it out loud that you tolerate some lies and not all of them.
Preach that this tolerance of lies if subjective – every person has a different tolerance level.
I really believe in lies. Every story that I have ever read and loved is essentially a lie but I still love it.
None of us know if our scriptures (the Ramayana for example – I am a Hindu) were actually true or just stories. The Mahabharata has been witnessed and written by a blind man – how can we be sure it occurred?
And I still believe and try and follow all Hindu traditions/customs some of them at least) – I wouldn’t want someone to take that away from me with the truth.
Maybe the Rama Mandir and Kurukshetra were the retro versions of the Harry Potter theme parks.
Do you know there is an actual pillar in the London railway station that says platform 9 ¾ (or whatever Harry Potter books say it is supposed to be – I am not a fan and haven’t read but you can kill me for that later).
Don’t you think some 1000 years later someone is going to stumble across the books and find evidence of reality in that pillar and theme parks?
Our lies are our history and our future. They are as old as we are. We wouldn’t need language if we didn’t want lies. If we really wanted to explore ways of communication only for the truth – we would have spent more time and effort exploring telepathy (and don’t tell me you don’t believe that is possible).
We should learn to embrace lies and when you start analyzing what you lie about you will start to understand your inner workings better.
Hasta la proxima!